Tuesday, August 4, 2009

i'm not nice...


i started this blog two weeks ago and it's been sitting with furtive glances in my "drafts" box...or is it "dafts box" (HAHA) anyway, because it's the truth I will finish it but please dear reader, know that this thought started with an inkling of guilt at LEAST two weeks ago...but is no less weighty at the moment...

you know in the daily wanderings of our lives we hope we're doing the right thing and often we overlook small details of consideration but wave them off casually with a blithe air of "it's okay, i'll be nice tomorrow" in our eyes...

so i'd like to share an epiphany i recently stumbled upon: "niceness is not necessarily displayed as syrupy warm fuzziness, rather, niceness can show itself in blunt honesty given in the interest of maintaining and/or forging a relationship."

along these lines is the truth that in this world there are and will continue to be people who for one reason or another, even perhaps, for NONE, just don't like us. imagine that. we spin our wheels desperately (some of us) in the hopes of being well-liked, even well spoken of but the reality is, if i speak kind and eloquent words about my dog, this does not either raise nor lower his existent characteristics. he remains a dog. conversely, by speaking horrific lies about him he doesn't slink away, a cowering cur, but STILL remains as he has always been - a dog.

you may chuckle to yourself that these are simple truths but i share these with awe for truly, i've finally realized this and so, the revelatory title to this tome: i'm not nice...

but i will always be REAL.

1 comment:

Betty Manousos:cutand-dry.blogspot.com said...

Yes Shawna, I completely understand what you say here.I do agree with your truth.
Betty xx